Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Three reasons why your e-mails are misunderstood

E-mail is a great, even essential, way to attract customers and communicate with employees, vendors and partners. But as I said in yesterday's post e-mail can be dangerous when you're angry, upset or even just trying to be funny. Why? E-mail is simply not very good at conveying the emotions behind your message -- so it can be easily misunderstood.

A study detailed in the Christian Science Monitor found three major problems with e-mail as a communications medium:
  • It lacks cues like facial expression and tone of voice. That makes it difficult for recipients to decode meaning.
  • Because it's virtually instantaneous, it can create an urgency that pressures you to respond quickly, even before you think things through. That can lead to carelessness and conflict.
  • Relationships developed via e-mail are more fragile than face-to-face relationships, especially when conflict arises.
The study found that not only do e-mail senders overestimate their ability to communicate their feelings accurately, recipients often overestimate their ability to correctly decode your feelings and meaning. A classic failure to communicate.

Bottom line: Sometimes it's better to pick up the phone or drop in.

What's your take? When is e-mail inappropriate? Have you ever had a relationship (business or personal) blow up because of a misunderstood e-mail? Ever been involved in flame wars? Answer in the comments.

Or just... uh... e-mail them to me.

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Tuesday, November 07, 2006

Angry e-mails? Put them in your notebook instead.

Don't write e-mails when you're angry, suggests AOL Consumer Adviser Regina Lewis (link). Count to ten and clear your head before firing off an angry response. This is especially true when dealing with customers, but it can be just as risky with coworkers and bosses.

That's a great policy, but it doesn't really help you manage your emotions. Where do you direct all that internal fury? Here's a suggestion.

Instead of possibly alienating a customer or jeopardizing your career, open a blank Word document and start venting. Write out exactly what's irritating you -- but don't send it. "Stream of consciousness" is fine. Busted grammar, misspellings and typos are par for the course. It's not about "writing" -- it's about releasing your feelings. Just get it down on the page. It's great therapy, and can be very revealing. You may discover stuff you didn't know you were suppressing.

If you're interested in exploring your feelings through writing, you should try doing "morning pages," suggested by Julia Cameron in her excellent book, The Artist's Way. Morning pages are three pages of writing, performed daily, about anything at all. Whatever is on (or in) your mind. It's supposed to overcome your internal censor and make writing natural and habitual. It works!

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Monday, November 06, 2006

Business jargon baffles and alienates

Needless jargon in the workplace baffles and alienates your employees, according to a new study. It even makes some employees think you're trying to hide something. A survey of Scottish workers found that more than half were fed up with bosses using management jargon. Two-thirds preferred no jargon at all. Link.

I often rant about the importance of clear, simple language in your company's marketing materials. But it's noteworthy to discover that business jargon is often just as confusing to your own employees!

The survey, by the UK firm Investors in People, confirms what most of us already know. Phrases like "low hanging fruit," "blue-sky thinking" and "brain dump" confuse and annoy workers. They frequently don't have a clue what you mean -- but being human, they don't want to risk looking stupid by asking. Instead, they sit there quietly, feeling stupid and inadequate. That's bad for morale, bad for productivity. And it widens the divide between management and staff, the survey suggests.

"Bosses need to lead by example, ditch needless jargon and concentrate on communicating clearly with their employees," concluded the study.

As a professional writer, let me offer one partial solution: The first time you use any expression that might be confusing to your audience, explain what it means. For example:
"This month the sale team will go after the low-hanging fruit -- you know, the easiest targets."

"We need you to really push the envelope, to go beyond our usual limits."
See how subtle that can be? You don't have to beat your team over the head to explain what you mean. In fact, it defeats the whole purpose. But it's important to realize that not everyone instantly understands phrases that might seem like second nature to you.

Here's a great way to define something that may be unfamiliar: Use the phrase As you know. This gives your listeners credit for knowing something that, in reality, they may not actually understand:
"As you know, revenues are the total of all sales... "

"As you know, blue-sky thinking may not have a practical application yet, but it's still important to consider all the possibilities."
"Using management jargon doesn't make you a good manager," said Peter Russian, chief executive of Investors in People Scotland. "The most effective bosses recognize that one of the keys to engaging, motivating and enthusing people is to communicate in a way which everyone can easily understand."

What about you? How do you feel about jargon? Do you have any better ways to explain the meaning of an unclear expression or phrase? I'd love to hear your suggestions.

But now, please excuse me. I have to go shift my paradigm...

Sunday, November 05, 2006

D*lbert and obscenity

Dilbert creator Scott Adams has a blog, of course. I mean, who doesn't? But unlike most blogs, his is both funny and thought-provoking.

The other day Adams mused about the most obscene letter in the alphabet. He figures it must be the asterisk, "since it appears in almost every naughty word you see in print." He calls it a loin cloth that protects our eyes from seeing all the smut out there.
"That smutty little character is attracted to obscenity like flies to sh*t. To be fair and balanced, it should be noted that the asterisk protects you from seeing naked cuss words that would otherwise blind you and put you on the slippery slope to porn addiction. But when you cover a naughty word’s turgid genitalia with an asterisk, no one knows what the f*ck you’re trying to say.
Enjoy it all here. (Obviously not suitable for those offended by naughty language.)